chemistry

Chemistry without a relationship; relationships without chemistry.
I have one guy I am in a relationship with — we go to lunch, we talk, we share, we even listen to each other — but there's no sex, no hooking up. For awhile I had another guy I had crazy chemistry with — great hookups until one day, it just wasn't there anymore.
So is this normal?
Better yet, which one is the healthier relationship? The primal one or the "evolved" one? And I'm not sure which is which.
And even though I know the "correct" answer to the healthy question, the fun one was the screwed-up screwy one. It ended, and terribly at that, which should tell you how wrong it was to begin with.

But can they coexist? Can you have a hott, intellectual relationship? Can you have a spectacularly hott relationship with brains? And is it that point at which commitment phobias fade away and you are simply in the moment?

I met a guy once who was sweet and intellectual and hott. And together we were hott (and not just once) and not staying the night is one of the few things I regret. But when push came to shove, he was a shitty friend first and foremost.

I met another guy who was brilliant, sweet, caring and who I could talk to for hours. Great friend, little chemistry.
And we all have stories just like that.
Maybe that mysterious chemistry, the bond, is what hopeless romantics spend their lives searching for. And maybe that's why they're "hopeless romantics."

At the end of the day, maybe it's not love that's blind, maybe it's sex. 

It's the chemistry that makes us forgo all logic.

I love chemistry.